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Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby thenamelessone » Wed Jun 15, 2016 5:10 am

I've been working for the same company as a pharmacist for a few years, and I've noticed a certain pattern of behavior demonstrated by my boss. As a rule:

- He disapproves of pharmacists associating with staff (including other pharmacists) from other pharmacies outside of work. He cautioned me against even catching up with former mentors from my past jobs.

- He strongly discourages staff (particularly pharmacists) associating with staff who have left the business on anything less than stellar terms... and almost everyone who leaves the business leaves on poor terms. It's gotten to the point where he has pulled certain staff up for attending farewell parties for staff who have resigned, and gotten shitty because a the wife of a guy who worked with the company happened to be friends with an employee who had left the company to go to the competition.

- He hates it when someone helps someone who has resigned from the company to find a new job, either by giving them a reference or referral.

I haven't really worked for many companies, but I'm starting to find his mentality a bit disturbing. I understand that any sane boss is going to be a bit cagey about their employees forming friendships with former employees/employees from competition, but why the fuck would they care if the former employee is working in an unrelated field?
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Re: Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby Eddie Willers » Wed Jun 15, 2016 7:20 am

Inappropriately controlling - especially about cautioning you against seeing former mentors...none of his goddamned business.

I suggest you begin a discreet job search or, if you think you will be supported, speak to the organization's HR staff.
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Re: Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby hasmat » Wed Jun 15, 2016 7:30 am

Your boss is a unprofessional Douchebag. He's probably too unintelligent to determine why people leave on bad terms.
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I'd start lining up an alternative.

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Re: Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby Merlin » Wed Jun 15, 2016 8:07 am

Your boss is an abusive asshole. I know we talk a lot about women using the abuse excuse but some people ARE abusive and your boss is one of them.

He is trying to limit your friends and contacts to control you. If everyone is leaving on bad terms then the problem is him and not the employees.
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Re: Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby indianajohn » Wed Jun 15, 2016 8:09 am

totally unprofessional.
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Re: Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby MisterPho » Wed Jun 15, 2016 8:33 am

This is textbook abuser behaviour.

Get the fuck out of there at the first opportunity, preferably an opportunity of your making.
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Re: Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby MrPragmatic » Wed Jun 15, 2016 9:28 am

I agree with everyone else who has chimed in. Who you associate with and what you do off the clock that doesn't violate the law is none of your boss' fucking business.

Thankfully I've never worked for a boss who tried to pull this controlling shit. Fuck him.
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Re: Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby thenamelessone » Wed Jun 15, 2016 9:35 am

Eddie Willers wrote:Inappropriately controlling - especially about cautioning you against seeing former mentors...none of his goddamned business.

I suggest you begin a discreet job search or, if you think you will be supported, speak to the organization's HR staff.


Well, the boss is the business owner, and we don't have a HR department.

I get paid well for my position, and am happy with my work. However, I'm getting more and more anxious. People fall out of grace really quickly in the company, and when they fall, they fall HARD.
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Re: Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby The Signal » Wed Jun 15, 2016 9:46 am

thenamelessone wrote:
Eddie Willers wrote:I get paid well for my position, and am happy with my work. However, I'm getting more and more anxious. People fall out of grace really quickly in the company, and when they fall, they fall HARD.

I'd say that's a bad sign right there. Your boss sounds like an archetypal vindictive control freak.

I think the other posters here have it right: keep your mouth shut, keep your boss happy, keep doing the job until you've secured a better one, then when you're ready, give him the two weeks notice without further comment and run for the hills.
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Re: Is this normal and appropriate?

Postby Pointerman » Wed Jun 15, 2016 11:50 am

Ditto the above. I've been a manager for a long time and the road that this guy is on it going to get him either fired or sued.

There are simply some things that a good manager knows by common sense not to do and this guy is breaking all the guidelines.
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