TLDR: Cupcake: God, I want to openly ride the cock carousel while holding onto my wallet. What to do? I know, we'll call it a marriage sabbatical and tell everyone how great it is!
Original Link: http://nypost.com/2017/04/10/my-marriage-sabbatical-saved-my-relationship/
My ‘marriage sabbatical’ saved my relationship
By Kerri Sackville, News.com.au April 10, 2017 | 11:37am | Updated
How do you save a marriage? Well, Ruby Warrington has a novel solution.
Recently, she wrote about her “marriage sabbatical,” an eight-month break that she credits with saving her faltering relationship.
For the lurkers, that translates to she rode the cock carousel for 8 months while trying to upgrade to a higher value male but found no takers, just pumped and dumped. Do you think she would have gone back to her wallet if she had found something better? Of course not, she would have said that the sabbatical gave her the courage to end her marriage. Heads she wins, tails you lose. That's how cupcakes roll.
At 31, Warrington had been married for four years, but the luster had begun to wear off.
“I found myself doubting our relationship. I loved Simon with every cell of my being, but was I still in love with him? I missed the intoxicating feeling of our earlier years together. Having ‘settled down’ so young, was I missing out on something better?” she wrote for the Daily Mail.
Settled down young at 27? Cupcake is delusional. She used what was left of her youth and beauty as she was approaching the wall to snag a wallet. Too many cupcakes wait until their best years are behind them and they have smashed into the wall to nail down a wallet only to find no takers. And there you go, from cupcake's own mouth, wondering if there was something better out there, looking to trade up to the rich alpha who would whisk her away from her life of drudgery.
As Warrington realized, this type of lull is normal in a marriage. After all, you can’t keep up that initial intoxication forever. Lust settles and morphs into something different in a happy marriage — a depth of connection and understanding and love.
But she wasn’t satisfied.
Cupcakes are never satisfied. They are always looking for the bigger, better deal. That is why you never marry one. She might be happy for a bit, but then she is on the hunt for her next victim. Better to pump and dump or pay her to leave after sex. Once she has the ring of one power, she owns your ass. Everything favors her.
“As the cracks had begun to show, we made what felt like a grown-up decision: to take time out from married life in the name of reigniting the spark that brought us together.”
She wanted to ride the cock carousel while keeping her wallet in hand. If you are unfortunate to be married and your cupcake wants to take a marriage sabbatical, your best bet is to dump her as there's a good chance she won't want to get off the cock carousel again. Do you really want to be married to a cupcake that's openly getting plowed by other men?
Warrington had been offered an eight-month stint in Ibiza editing a magazine. She knew her husband couldn’t leave his work to join her, so she took the position and moved overseas, leaving Simon at home. The couple barely spoke to each other for the entire eight months.
Ah, she wanted to get plowed by foreign cock. Ibiza is a huge tourist destination so she had a smorgasbord of strange cock to choose from. He was probably calling her, but she didn't have time to take his calls as she was busy getting plowed by all those cocks. She figured if she pretended it wasn't happening, she could deny it and her wallet would still be dumb enough to take her back.
Of course, the story has a happy ending. Warrington returned to her husband after her eight-month “sabbatical,” and the two forged a new, stronger relationship.
Of course the story has a happy ending for cupcake. She was able to ride the cock carousel without interference for 8 glorious months and still had her wallet locked down since a higher status male didn't swoop in and offer to take her away. Hope he made her take an STD test or he's more than likely going to get a souvenir of her adventures that he doesn't want.
“I look back on that summer as a window of self-discovery and a crucial chapter in our relationship history.
“Beyond the conventions of marriage, it was an opportunity for us to choose to be together again, for ever.”
For the lurkers, when cupcake says "self-discovery", she means getting plowed by strange cock. She only chose to return to her wallet because she didn't find anything better. I guarantee that if she had found something better, the current wallet would have just gotten a note that things weren't working out as she traipsed off with the new wallet. The guys move should have been telling her ok, then hiding his assets, plowing her girlfriends, and punching out before she came back. Instead, he's just shown her that he is ok with her getting plowed by strange cocks as long as there is a cover story. Don't be this guy.
It’s a lovely story. I suspect some happily married people will read it and sigh, wondering how much a sabbatical would have spiced up their own marriage. And I suspect some divorcees will read it and wonder: Could a sabbatical have saved their relationship? Could some time apart pursuing other interests have reignited the lost spark?
If men were asking for marriage sabbaticals so they could plow strange pussy, you would be hearing how terrible marriage sabbaticals were. Marriage sabbaticals are to give license to cupcake to get back on the cock carousel while keeping their wallet in hand. And when cupcakes say "pursuing other interests", that always boils down to strange cock, hoping to upgrade their current wallet into a thicker wallet.
Well, the answer depends on your marriage, and your breakup. Over the past few years, I’ve concluded that there are two types of divorce.
One is the “hardcore divorce.” These herald the end of marriages that are utterly unsalvageable, marriages in which the relationship patterns are so destructive, or the betrayals so huge, that one or both partners feel there is no choice but to separate.
Then there is the “soft divorce.” These are the couples who claim to still be “best friends,” but over the years they have “grown apart.”
They love each other, but have fallen out of love. They hold each other in high esteem, but have lost the spark that brought them together in the first place.
“Soft divorcees” can be slightly smug about their experiences — or so it can seem to the “hardcores.” They write essays on “conscious uncoupling,” work out their own property settlements without the need for lawyers, and wonder aloud why parents don’t put aside their differences for the sake of the kids.
They don’t understand that it takes two to make an amicable divorce, and that you can’t “consciously uncouple” from a nasty ex.
And “hardcore divorcees” regard “soft divorcees” with a mixture of envy and bafflement. It must be lovely to get along so well with your ex, but why divorce them in the first place if you’re still such good friends?
The two groups have entirely different experiences of marriage and separation.
“Soft divorcees” may decide that Ruby Warrington has the answer: Take a bit of a break to restore the lust and affection, and your marriage will be stronger for it.
“Hardcore divorcees,” on the other hand, will read her story and roll their eyes. A sabbatical won’t fix a broken marriage. It’s a Band-Aid solution, a mere time-out from the destructive patterns of behavior.
If you’re lucky enough to have a fundamentally loving relationship, a marriage sabbatical might help you renew the spark. On the other hand, you might grow further apart, or one of you might fall in love with someone else.
And really, I’m not sure why you’d take that risk. If your partner is your best friend, shouldn’t you cling onto them with all your might?
Then again, I’m a “hardcore divorcee.” Evidently, I don’t understand.
Most divorces are initiated by cupcake and many of them used scorched earth tactics. And most men instinctively understand that a "marriage sabbatical" really translates into their cupcake wanting to get back on the cock carousel while keeping them in hand in case nothing better comes along.
For the lurkers, cupcakes always get bored in a marriage. If they had their way, they would love to openly get plowed on the side while keeping their current wallet in hand until something better comes along. If you aren't married, don't get married and you will never have to worry about this. And you won't have to worry about losing 1/2 your stuff and your kids. If you are married, chances are your special cupcake is getting plowed on the side and might even bring up a "marriage sabbatical" so she doesn't have to sneak around anymore. So glad I'm not married anymore and don't have to worry about this shit. And cupcakes wonder where all the good men have gone and society wonders why the marriage rate has plummeted. Do you really want to be married to this?