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Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby Ghost Rider » Sun Apr 16, 2017 9:43 pm

Perusing a different site, I came upon this story that shows why you should never ever get married. If I had only known before I was dumb enough to do it. Fortunately I was able to escape with a lot less damage than a lot of other men.

TLDR: Cupcake: God, I want to openly ride the cock carousel while holding onto my wallet. What to do? I know, we'll call it a marriage sabbatical and tell everyone how great it is!

Original Link: http://nypost.com/2017/04/10/my-marriage-sabbatical-saved-my-relationship/

My ‘marriage sabbatical’ saved my relationship
By Kerri Sackville, News.com.au April 10, 2017 | 11:37am | Updated

How do you save a marriage? Well, Ruby Warrington has a novel solution.

Recently, she wrote about her “marriage sabbatical,” an eight-month break that she credits with saving her faltering relationship.


For the lurkers, that translates to she rode the cock carousel for 8 months while trying to upgrade to a higher value male but found no takers, just pumped and dumped. Do you think she would have gone back to her wallet if she had found something better? Of course not, she would have said that the sabbatical gave her the courage to end her marriage. Heads she wins, tails you lose. That's how cupcakes roll.

At 31, Warrington had been married for four years, but the luster had begun to wear off.

“I found myself doubting our relationship. I loved Simon with every cell of my being, but was I still in love with him? I missed the intoxicating feeling of our earlier years together. Having ‘settled down’ so young, was I missing out on something better?” she wrote for the Daily Mail.


Settled down young at 27? Cupcake is delusional. She used what was left of her youth and beauty as she was approaching the wall to snag a wallet. Too many cupcakes wait until their best years are behind them and they have smashed into the wall to nail down a wallet only to find no takers. And there you go, from cupcake's own mouth, wondering if there was something better out there, looking to trade up to the rich alpha who would whisk her away from her life of drudgery.

As Warrington realized, this type of lull is normal in a marriage. After all, you can’t keep up that initial intoxication forever. Lust settles and morphs into something different in a happy marriage — a depth of connection and understanding and love.

But she wasn’t satisfied.


Cupcakes are never satisfied. They are always looking for the bigger, better deal. That is why you never marry one. She might be happy for a bit, but then she is on the hunt for her next victim. Better to pump and dump or pay her to leave after sex. Once she has the ring of one power, she owns your ass. Everything favors her.

“As the cracks had begun to show, we made what felt like a grown-up decision: to take time out from married life in the name of reigniting the spark that brought us together.”


She wanted to ride the cock carousel while keeping her wallet in hand. If you are unfortunate to be married and your cupcake wants to take a marriage sabbatical, your best bet is to dump her as there's a good chance she won't want to get off the cock carousel again. Do you really want to be married to a cupcake that's openly getting plowed by other men?

Warrington had been offered an eight-month stint in Ibiza editing a magazine. She knew her husband couldn’t leave his work to join her, so she took the position and moved overseas, leaving Simon at home. The couple barely spoke to each other for the entire eight months.


Ah, she wanted to get plowed by foreign cock. Ibiza is a huge tourist destination so she had a smorgasbord of strange cock to choose from. He was probably calling her, but she didn't have time to take his calls as she was busy getting plowed by all those cocks. She figured if she pretended it wasn't happening, she could deny it and her wallet would still be dumb enough to take her back.

Of course, the story has a happy ending. Warrington returned to her husband after her eight-month “sabbatical,” and the two forged a new, stronger relationship.


Of course the story has a happy ending for cupcake. She was able to ride the cock carousel without interference for 8 glorious months and still had her wallet locked down since a higher status male didn't swoop in and offer to take her away. Hope he made her take an STD test or he's more than likely going to get a souvenir of her adventures that he doesn't want.

“I look back on that summer as a window of self-discovery and a crucial chapter in our relationship history.

“Beyond the conventions of marriage, it was an opportunity for us to choose to be together again, for ever.”


For the lurkers, when cupcake says "self-discovery", she means getting plowed by strange cock. She only chose to return to her wallet because she didn't find anything better. I guarantee that if she had found something better, the current wallet would have just gotten a note that things weren't working out as she traipsed off with the new wallet. The guys move should have been telling her ok, then hiding his assets, plowing her girlfriends, and punching out before she came back. Instead, he's just shown her that he is ok with her getting plowed by strange cocks as long as there is a cover story. Don't be this guy.

It’s a lovely story. I suspect some happily married people will read it and sigh, wondering how much a sabbatical would have spiced up their own marriage. And I suspect some divorcees will read it and wonder: Could a sabbatical have saved their relationship? Could some time apart pursuing other interests have reignited the lost spark?


If men were asking for marriage sabbaticals so they could plow strange pussy, you would be hearing how terrible marriage sabbaticals were. Marriage sabbaticals are to give license to cupcake to get back on the cock carousel while keeping their wallet in hand. And when cupcakes say "pursuing other interests", that always boils down to strange cock, hoping to upgrade their current wallet into a thicker wallet.

Well, the answer depends on your marriage, and your breakup. Over the past few years, I’ve concluded that there are two types of divorce.

One is the “hardcore divorce.” These herald the end of marriages that are utterly unsalvageable, marriages in which the relationship patterns are so destructive, or the betrayals so huge, that one or both partners feel there is no choice but to separate.

Then there is the “soft divorce.” These are the couples who claim to still be “best friends,” but over the years they have “grown apart.”

They love each other, but have fallen out of love. They hold each other in high esteem, but have lost the spark that brought them together in the first place.

“Soft divorcees” can be slightly smug about their experiences — or so it can seem to the “hardcores.” They write essays on “conscious uncoupling,” work out their own property settlements without the need for lawyers, and wonder aloud why parents don’t put aside their differences for the sake of the kids.

They don’t understand that it takes two to make an amicable divorce, and that you can’t “consciously uncouple” from a nasty ex.

And “hardcore divorcees” regard “soft divorcees” with a mixture of envy and bafflement. It must be lovely to get along so well with your ex, but why divorce them in the first place if you’re still such good friends?

The two groups have entirely different experiences of marriage and separation.

“Soft divorcees” may decide that Ruby Warrington has the answer: Take a bit of a break to restore the lust and affection, and your marriage will be stronger for it.

“Hardcore divorcees,” on the other hand, will read her story and roll their eyes. A sabbatical won’t fix a broken marriage. It’s a Band-Aid solution, a mere time-out from the destructive patterns of behavior.

If you’re lucky enough to have a fundamentally loving relationship, a marriage sabbatical might help you renew the spark. On the other hand, you might grow further apart, or one of you might fall in love with someone else.

And really, I’m not sure why you’d take that risk. If your partner is your best friend, shouldn’t you cling onto them with all your might?

Then again, I’m a “hardcore divorcee.” Evidently, I don’t understand.


Most divorces are initiated by cupcake and many of them used scorched earth tactics. And most men instinctively understand that a "marriage sabbatical" really translates into their cupcake wanting to get back on the cock carousel while keeping them in hand in case nothing better comes along.

For the lurkers, cupcakes always get bored in a marriage. If they had their way, they would love to openly get plowed on the side while keeping their current wallet in hand until something better comes along. If you aren't married, don't get married and you will never have to worry about this. And you won't have to worry about losing 1/2 your stuff and your kids. If you are married, chances are your special cupcake is getting plowed on the side and might even bring up a "marriage sabbatical" so she doesn't have to sneak around anymore. So glad I'm not married anymore and don't have to worry about this shit. And cupcakes wonder where all the good men have gone and society wonders why the marriage rate has plummeted. Do you really want to be married to this?
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby Slade » Sun Apr 16, 2017 10:30 pm

As I've said before, women now expect men to accept their infidelity as the price to pay to be in a relationshit with her. And given the huge number of thirsty beta wallets out there, they're getting away with it, at least for now.
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby fester » Sun Apr 16, 2017 10:43 pm

Years ago they called this an "open marriage", that is she gets as much sex as she can handle while he jumps through hoops for maybe whatever.

He has to work for it, she just has to show up.

Your wife fucking around on you is an insult.

Your wife telling you she's fucking around on you and that you should be good with it is beyond insulting.
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby Phathack » Mon Apr 17, 2017 12:04 am

You want a marriage sabbatical, sure sign these divorce papers and you are free to go do what ever you want.
Better yet, send her the divorce papers at her office in Ibiza Express courier to be there within a day or two of her staring the job.
When she returns all her shit is in a storage locker and she owes them 8 months rent in order to get it back.

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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby Demosthenes » Mon Apr 17, 2017 6:45 am

Divorce.

She can have a marriage sabbatical freely now.

I'll be having my own sabbatical indefinitely as my first divorce was also my last.

If a woman complains about men not marrying now, I can state that men must be on an indefinite marriage sabbatical.

We'll also be on an emotional abuse sabbatical, a stress and frustration sabbatical, a sleep deprivation sabbatical, and...
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby ernave » Mon Apr 17, 2017 7:59 am

Phathack wrote:When she returns all her shit is in a storage locker and she owes them 8 months rent in order to get it back.


Are you kidding me? Do you think a twat is going to put your shit in storage if she has eight months to prepare??

This guy should have sold her shit for cash (with no paper trail). He should have spent eight months withdrawing cash from their joint accounts (in small enough amounts so as not to raise suspicion). And he should have opened credit cards that she doesn't know about, and regularly used them at ATMs to get as much cash as he can.

Then he should have been making regular trips to casinos, just to show his face and learn people's names. Because, you see, he just developed a "gambling addiction." He saves the cash, and this is his story about where it's all gone.

A month or so before she gets back, that's when he starts really emptying the joint checking account. He should also get drunk at one of the casinos and cause a scene. When they call the cops, he breaks down and asks the cop for advice - they'll give you the number to a gambling anonymous group. Maybe he even checks himself into a nice in-patient program (more $$$).

Now when she comes back, there's no cash left, there are dozens of credit cards, and there's a second mortgage on the house. You know what they split up in a divorce? Assets (but you don't have any) and debts - they split up all that debt. She is on the hook for half of it. So is he, but he has tens of thousands in cash buried in the woods somewhere.

She files for divorce (he was really trying to work things out, seriously guys!) - she better, or he'll just keep spending.

Sounds like she makes pretty good bank. He might even be able to get alimony out of this, especially given how he's disabled now. He has a plausible story about where the cash went, and a paper trail of going to gambler's anonymous and to the casinos.

He consolidates the debt he took from the divorce (better than bankruptcy), he "turns his life around" and stops gambling, and he uses the cash to pay for hookers (and he's not dumb enough to flash it around for anyone to see).

THE END

...of course, in the real world, this guy is a pathetic cuck with no backbone or self respect.
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby TDG » Mon Apr 17, 2017 8:04 am

fester wrote:Years ago they called this an "open marriage", that is she gets as much sex as she can handle while he jumps through hoops for maybe whatever.

He has to work for it, she just has to show up.

Your wife fucking around on you is an insult.

Your wife telling you she's fucking around on you and that you should be good with it is beyond insulting.


Pretty much what I was going to write.

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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby No4Dad » Mon Apr 17, 2017 10:38 am

“I found myself doubting our relationship. I loved Simon with every cell of my being, but was I still in love with him? I missed the intoxicating feeling of our earlier years together. Having ‘settled down’ so young, was I missing out on something better?” she wrote for the Daily Mail.


That right there is why you don't marry. They all think it. It doesn't matter if you're a plumber or Brad Pitt. They're all thinking it.

I'd say that the problem with marriage is that it is supposedly built on loyalty and trust. As a guy you expect her to be loyal to you and you trust her and you intend to do the same and be trusted in return. You're a team going through life together.

That's not what women think. Right after fucking you for the first time there is a process that goes off in their head of, "I wonder how many things I can find wrong with him."

You may be able to subvert that process with the proclamation of marriage but, ultimately, she's going to start thinking, again, in terms of the quote above.

If you want something loyal in your life who's always happy to see you, get a dog.
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby Red Coolade » Tue Apr 18, 2017 2:49 pm

No4Dad wrote:
“I found myself doubting our relationship. I loved Simon with every cell of my being, but was I still in love with him? I missed the intoxicating feeling of our earlier years together. Having ‘settled down’ so young, was I missing out on something better?” she wrote for the Daily Mail.


That right there is why you don't marry. They all think it. It doesn't matter if you're a plumber or Brad Pitt. They're all thinking it.

I'd say that the problem with marriage is that it is supposedly built on loyalty and trust. As a guy you expect her to be loyal to you and you trust her and you intend to do the same and be trusted in return. You're a team going through life together.

That's not what women think. Right after fucking you for the first time there is a process that goes off in their head of, "I wonder how many things I can find wrong with him."

You may be able to subvert that process with the proclamation of marriage but, ultimately, she's going to start thinking, again, in terms of the quote above.

If you want something loyal in your life who's always happy to see you, get a dog.


I am currently married to six wives:

Gamecube, 2002
Playstation 2, 2003
Wii U, 2016
Playstation 3, 2016 (while cheating on Wii U)
Switch, 2017 (I love Zelda)
Playstation Slim 4, 2017 (upgraded to my trophy wife)

What can be so bad about this arrangement? It's a win/win for us!!
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby ubermensch » Wed Apr 19, 2017 5:13 pm

Yeah.

No.

Not getting married again.

Or cohabitating.

And I'm dammed sure I won't be having children.
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby The Signal » Wed Apr 19, 2017 8:54 pm

The year the MSM starts openly contemplating the possibility that the divorce rate is women's fault, I still won't marry, but I will walk around town taking pictures of all the facial expressions.
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby ContentlyUnattached » Thu Apr 20, 2017 9:29 am

The Signal wrote:The year the MSM starts openly contemplating the possibility that the divorce rate is women's fault, I still won't marry, but I will walk around town taking pictures of all the facial expressions.


Hypothetically, even if all of the anti-male laws were to change to equal laws overnight, the whole stock of wimmin are all damaged beyond repair. Plus there are many men with solid reasons who will either not forgive nor believe them anyway.

In that scenario we all need to stay the MGTOW course.

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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby No4Dad » Thu Apr 20, 2017 10:41 am

ContentlyUnattached wrote:
The Signal wrote:The year the MSM starts openly contemplating the possibility that the divorce rate is women's fault, I still won't marry, but I will walk around town taking pictures of all the facial expressions.


Hypothetically, even if all of the anti-male laws were to change to equal laws overnight, the whole stock of wimmin are all damaged beyond repair. Plus there are many men with solid reasons who will either not forgive nor believe them anyway.


I agree. I'd add that:
- You have a few generations of damaged men from this shit. I know I'm broken / fucked up from it. If they changed the laws tomorrow I wouldn't sign up for it as they could change them back in the next election cycle. I simply don't trust women and trust the courts even less.
- You'd need a few generations of men to come through the system, and a few generations of women, who'd all live under "traditional values" and the courts to support those traditional values (and women to not be cunts in marriage) for it to really work but it take long enough to where we'd all be way old and still talking about "..how it used to be..." and grand kids or great grand kids would have to be telling us, "no... it's not like that any longer... It's been fixed.."

Only then do I think it'd actually be fixed. The trust has been lost in women, and the system that supports them (which it shouldn't).
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Re: Marriage, Don't Do It!

Postby The Signal » Thu Apr 20, 2017 8:26 pm

No4Dad wrote:
ContentlyUnattached wrote:
The Signal wrote:The year the MSM starts openly contemplating the possibility that the divorce rate is women's fault, I still won't marry, but I will walk around town taking pictures of all the facial expressions.


Hypothetically, even if all of the anti-male laws were to change to equal laws overnight, the whole stock of wimmin are all damaged beyond repair. Plus there are many men with solid reasons who will either not forgive nor believe them anyway.


I agree. I'd add that:
- You have a few generations of damaged men from this shit. I know I'm broken / fucked up from it. If they changed the laws tomorrow I wouldn't sign up for it as they could change them back in the next election cycle. I simply don't trust women and trust the courts even less.
- You'd need a few generations of men to come through the system, and a few generations of women, who'd all live under "traditional values" and the courts to support those traditional values (and women to not be cunts in marriage) for it to really work but it take long enough to where we'd all be way old and still talking about "..how it used to be..." and grand kids or great grand kids would have to be telling us, "no... it's not like that any longer... It's been fixed.."

Only then do I think it'd actually be fixed. The trust has been lost in women, and the system that supports them (which it shouldn't).

Unfortunately, I think both of you are exactly right. Even if the whole thing could be repaired (and wow, is that a big "if"), it'd take multiple generations for the current social damage to be reversed, and that's a best-case scenario. Its contemplation is appropriate only for one's craziest, most wildly optimistic moments.

The truth is simpler: it's all going to burn.
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