demonsgate wrote:Tdg it would be nice for brothers who date if you explained how you have kept the GF at bay with all a womans typical bullshit. I.E. Baby Rabies, Shit tests, Marriage etc. Would be beneficial for a lot of younger brothers who I've seen could use your Game School.
So first and foremost, I am not a lawyer or doctor, this is purely my own thoughts on the subjects based on my anecdotal evidence, so don't ask for any peer reviewed anything. Also note that this is in the dating section so comments of 'who cares?' are not exactly needed. This is put here for a reason.
I'm also going to do my best to not use 'red pill' or PUA terminology.
Now that's out of the way...
I've been with my current girl over a year. She's just slightly north of her mid twenties and I'm 32.
Now, all relationships start with you. You have to decide what are unbreakable rules and just how much shit you are willing to take. Yes, even the good women give shit. That's just part of what women are.
I only place one restriction on my girl; monogamy. Note the term; 'restriction' instead of 'rule' or 'law'. It may sound like semantics to us, but they all mean completely different things to women.
She can do what she wants, when she wants, as long as she stays monogamous. I can't force her to stay monogamous, or spy on her 24/7 to ensure she is, but if I found out she strayed, then she's dropped. She knows this.
I also employ two tools most of the time just because they are part of my personality. I relentlessly tease her (which is completely different to belittling her. You need to know the difference if you're going to do this). I also instil dread in her by letting her know that if I don't get what I want, then I'll go elsewhere. This doesn't mean she's forced to do things she doesn't want to do, but if she chooses to spend time with me, then there's a 90% chance I will want sex with her at some point. If she turns down your advances and can't give a legitimate reason, then you tell her that she's being difficult and that she should go home. Note, the term 'difficult' instead of 'bitch' or 'cunt'. Again, it may be semantics to us men, but it makes a world of difference to women. That works 99% of the time to change their attitude because of the dread that if she does leave, you'll go bang someone else. This may sound like she's going to begrudgingly have sex with you, but that's not the point, she 's doing it because she wants to make you happy and that is what puts her in the mood.
Shit tests I find easy due to a combination of not dealing with bullshit as part of my personality, and growing up with a single mother and sister. The easiest thing to do is either call them out on their hypocrisy or to just ignore them, but if you are doing the former, make sure it's only the two of you. It's too easy for White Knights and the sisterhood to get together if they are around at the time and then they'll gang up on you.
Never, ever, ever, ever, be afraid to speak your mind when you are one on one. This doesn't mean forcing your opinion on her, but if she's engaging in a conversation with you, be absolutely honest. My girl doesn't like a few of my ideas, but if pushed, I will explain things to her and not relent.
On the topic of explaining things, do it once and do it concisely and then move on. Women have a tendency to get stuck on a point and then The Hamster spins. You cannot defeat The Hamster so don't engage. If you get sucked in, you will get demolished. If you 'win' the argument, you'll still lose because 'feelings' and if you lose, their vagina dries up.
For example, my girl is always 10-15 mins late for everything and one day she was 45 mins late so when she arrived at my place, I told her that I expect her to be on time and to not treat me with such disrespect. I then quickly moved on, let it go, gave her a hug and a kiss and continued as if she was on time. She brought the point up an hour later and I just cut her off saying there was nothing more to be said and that it's done with.
When it comes to their bad habits, you have to decide what is worth it or not. I abhor tardiness, but she's consistently 10-15 mins late but that's not a fight I'm prepared to have so instead, if something we do is time sensitive, I just tell her 30 mins early. Many times, working with them is far more productive than trying to get them conform to what you want.
You also have to 'punish' them if they break their word. Like I said, my girl can do what she wants, when she wants, as long she stays monogamous, but when she makes plans, she can never break them (except for a genuine reason). If they do, then you go no contact until they contact you and when they do, you act like nothing is wrong.
When they are out of town, don't contact them, let them contact you. If she's out of town and thinks you are always going to be there, The Hamster can justify straying. When she does contact you, keep it brief.
Remain mysterious is another one. I sometimes get a text asking 'what are you up to tonight?'. I've noted that when in a relationship, they send this because they are checking up on you. Respond with something stupid. I always go onto google and find a stupid meme like one saying 'living the dream'. She doesn't know you're sitting in your apartment and playing video games, she just wants assurance you're not fucking another girl. The content of the text doesn't matter, it's the sending the text itself.
On the subject of texts, texts are for brief interactions only, they are not for conversations so don't get embroiled in one. The phone is the same thing. Conversations are face to face. It's exceedingly difficult to give them the 'gina tingles unless it's in person. Also, be random with you text message replies. I've waited many hours and sometimes even days to get back to her. The point of this, is if she is nearby, you give her attention, if she isn't and there's no chance you'll see her because she's out of town, working, etc, then you withdraw attention. You're letting her know that her physical presence is required for emotional support without being overt about it. Women hate overt. The medium is the message for them.
As far as sex goes, take complete and utter control. Due to the issue of 'consent' now, I've gotten into the habit of making them ask for things out loud before you start engaging. During the actual act, you have to treat her like a piece of meat most of the time. It's just the way they are wired. Once you're done, then you go back to treating her like a human being. Get to know her cues too. It's been my experience that unless a women says 'no', then she means yes. I know that isn't PC, but it's reality.
As far as picking good women go, the ones that have been the sweetest to me and wanted to please me all had fathers in their lives. The ones that don't tend to have bad Daddy issues that make them wildly unpredictable or hate male authority with a vengeance.
The only golden rule is to never be afraid to walk away. Women can detect if you'll drop them or not.
There's probably more but those are the main points.
If you want me to clarify or expand on a point, just ask.
If you have a question about something I didn't cover, just ask.
If you have a particular scenario you want input on, just ask.
Like I mentioned, this is merely what I have found to work in my experience. Some guys might think it's too much work, but I don't and I find my life to be very stress free with her. I like women. I like the way they smell, taste, think, and act. They are different to men and need to be handled differently. Once you understand that, dealing with them is pretty easy.